Watching CNN this week, where President was getting all misty while he made his statement on the killing of innocent school kids in Connecticut, one begins to wonder whether these are real feelings of emotion for the sadness caused by such unwarranted deaths in a nation who claim to be the best on the planet. Or, whether they are just a scene from a drama that world leaders like to portray in such emotional situations where the hearts and minds of the common people, irrespective of politics, are usually moved? Thereby getting some attention and even popularity?
The death of any innocent little child in any form or manner is always a most depressing and sad event to any human being, be he single, married, parent or adult. ven the death of a little puppy or kitten would move most people to tears.
Why do we, "humans", Grieve?
Is it because we feel guilty, inside us, that we are a part of the problem that causes such horrible events? Or, is it just because we feel that it could have been one of our own kids who was caught in thus quagmire? Or even more so, is it because we all love children, any child, on account of their innocence?
Grief, is generally assumed to be a multi-faceted response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or something to which a bond was formed. Grief can also be associated with sadness at someone else's loss. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has physical, cognitive, behavioral, social, and philosophical dimensions. While the terms are often used interchangeably, bereavement refers to the state of loss, and grief is the reaction to loss.
Some psychologists do conclude that the grief that one succumbs to when you lose a loved one is basically a selfish grief in may ways. This conclusion is made, based on tge fact that the loss of the loved one is making you sad because YOU are the loser and NOT the one who has passed away, thereby concluding the fact that the grief you display is basically a grief for YOUR OWN self and not really for the departed.
Then one starts thinking of all the little kids who get killed on a daily basis, across the globe, by human actions, be they justified or not, and thereby resulting in massive grief for so many parents, family, friends, neighbors, and the community at large. Such killings even get to the depths of human hearts across the globe, living far and wide, through the 24X7 real time TV networks that we have at our disposal in these modern times.
Palestine, Iraq, Afghanistan, Pakistan, Bosnia, Burma, Sri Lanka, BanglaDesh, The Congo, Rwanda, and many other strife torn nations have seen the killing of many such innocent women and children in recent times through conflicts caused by man made, "human", decisions. Then there is also the grief that one succumbs to when you see the poverty and squalor being suffered by many children across the globe. All such events do bring a sense of grief into our human hearts.
Yet, we only choose to cry for some while we do not bother about others. Or even more, do not feel they warrant any crying at all.
Is this a human double standard gene in side us that prevails when we act in this Dr Jekyll and Mr Hide manner? I wish I could have asked this question from President Obama when he was tearing on TV.
Think about it!